Best marriage advice for newlyweds is a compilation of advice that I gathered mostly from my romance author friends on Facebook as well as from my own experience and the books I read. I have been seeing views on this particular page and I feel guilty for leaving this empty for so long without content so here goes my first relationship and marriage advice for newlyweds and couples who are planning to get married.
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Each of us goes through a lot every day. From time to time, we want to hear some advice from those who are more experienced and wiser, from the people who had been in a similar situation in the past. From the people who gained wisdom from their own experience the hard or easy way. Every relationship and love problem is unique. Some advice may be helpful to our own relationships and some may not.
I’m very happy to have met a lot of friends on Facebook in just a short time since I started creating this blog. Friends who share the same passion for reading, writing and the likes and I’m happy to share their thoughts about this particular topic. So, when I popped in the question on what is the best advice that they can give to newlyweds couples or those who are planning to get married, I learned from their insights too and I hope you will too.
Meanwhile, let’s save the best for last, and let me start off with my own marriage advice from my own life experience first. I’ve been married for 10 years myself. What can you say to that? Here goes the best advice that we can give for newly-wed couples.
1. Commit to the relationship.
There will always be challenges along the way, you need to fight temptation, never think of cheating, work on your relationship, respect your partner, and be kind.
2. Have faith.
Whatever your beliefs about divine intervention, I always find it helpful to pray when things get hard. Whatever your beliefs are, make it a habit to think positively about things. Find the goodness in small things, have faith in your partner, and always choose to believe in the good things that you have shared together. As much as possible don’t dwell on the negative as you will just end up hurting yourself.
3. Don’t forget to love yourself.
It’s just normal that we become dependent on our partner but don’t forget to protect yourself on all occasions. Find a hobby that you can do on the side to recharge your spirit. Don’t forget that each of us is never alone, know the right people whom you can turn to for advice when you need one. They can be your friends, family, or an online community that you can consult with.
I think I’m one lucky woman to have found the right partner in life. In 10 years of marriage life, we’ve never had a big fight but mind you we’ve been through a lot, and up to this day we face life’s harsh realities every day but I love my husband and I do think he does too lol and this is what makes us say we’re happy and content together every day.
4. Love deeply. Find ways not to break your partner’s heart to pieces.
Now let me revisit one of my book reads. I have read a lot of romance novels but I don’t know why this book by Charles Martin, The Mountain Between Us, first comes to mind when I think of some insights about marriage. I actually have a hard time thinking of a specific book from my previous reads that give me memorable advice about marriage. If you can think of some feel free to leave a comment. I promise that I will be updating this post as soon as I came across another book that can give me other insights about this topic. There are a lot of memorable quotes from this book and I want to share two of them on how to love deeply and what it means when a heart breaks.
Now, let’s go to the best part. See my friend’s marriage advice below and I sure did learn some new insights from them as well. You can check out their best marriage advice from this link here. But, I will try to summarize it here as well and for those new insights that are totally different from the other, I will just leave them here verbatim. Also, I am mentioning the authors and their books who are kind enough to leave comments to my post and I hope my stalking abilities in finding your books are accurate enough. Feel free to contact me for any corrections.
5. Don’t jump to conclusions.
Don’t let your mind create scenarios that are too far gone.
***This is from Maureen Shigeno, author of steamy and paranormal romance, Whimsical Cove series.
6. Think of each other and appreciate each other’s thoughtfulness.
Usually, it’s the small things that count.
7. Understand one another’s language of love.
Heather Relken, author of New Horizons: An Erotic, Poly, Scifi-Romance, provided this link here where you and your partner can take the quiz and understand each other’s language of love. In his book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, author Gary Chapman mentions that there are 5 love languages:
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical Touch
Understanding your partner’s love language would help you understand each other more so expectations can be managed and misunderstanding can be avoided if there are any.
8. Relationships need work from both ends.
Be honest, have open communication and learn how to compromise and make sacrifices for the relationship to work. Advice from Heather Relken.
9. Don’t marry someone expecting it to get better.
Marriage is like the ocean, you need a ride the tides… rocky ones lead to calm seas and back again…
10. Don’t be jealous.
Advice 9-10 from Mira Brooks, author of Princes of Insula Book series.
11. Make sure you can make each other laugh.
Advice from Elizabeth Marx, author of Alabama Secrets series.
12. RESPECT each other.
Say please and thank you. Never take the other for granted. APPRECIATE one another. Advice from M.K. Hall, fantasy/urban author.
13. Never go to bed angry angry with your partner.
14. Spend money on what you would fight about.
Always fighting about cooking dinner? Try a meal delivery service. Fight about not spending time together? Buy a new game to play. Etc. Advice from Livia Lang, author of The Erotic Zodiac series.
15. Good communication is key!
You’re never fully right and your partner is never fully wrong, so take a minute and remember your love, cherish and respect each other even when you disagree.
16. Remember to take time to reconnect with each other, no matter how busy or complicated life gets.
If you don’t put the work into your relationship on an ongoing basis you’ll end up on different wavelengths and drift apart.
17. Hug each other at least once every day.
Not a brief fly-by hug, but a full, fronts pressed together, arms around each other hug for at least 30 seconds. It relieves stress as you take comfort in each other and syncs your heartbeats to each other. Jamie Lynn Hart, an aspiring romance author, gives Advice 14-17.
18. Remember kindness.
Advice from Darla Stone, author of Amelia Jane Gray series.
I hope that we’ve given you some memorable marriage advice to help you start off your marriage life on a positive note. My wish is for your marriage and love to last forever. As a closing note, I want to end with this memorable line from the movie Leap Year.
“Bride: May you never steal, lie or cheat, but if you must steal, then steal away my sorrows, and if you must lie, lie with me all the nights of my life, and if you must cheat, then please cheat death because I couldn’t live a day without you. …”
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